Many couples go through difficult times in marriage and this can be considered as marital problems. However, if you both strive, this condition will only be fleeting. Over the years we have heard a lot that one of the partners does not want to try anything new in bed. This is inevitably a code for we have sex in the same limited and uninspired way.
This is a deep sexual performance routine. And couples who are trapped in this routine usually can not get out of it by simply changing their steps or adding new sex moves. For these men and women, an erotic imagination is lacking.
When sexual performance is limited and strictly routine, couples find themselves having less and less frequent sexual intercourse. They can eventually become “sexless” couples. It is estimated that about 20 million couples (of all age groups) fall into this category.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #1 – The standard advice
Therapists say: Talk about the problem and come up with new ways to make love. Sex experts say: Learn new sex techniques and surprise your partner with your moves tonight.
Start with a completely non-threatening activity that, however, will energize both sexually: as for example, tantric breathing. Now, turn to each other and make love, slowly and sensually, keeping your breathing techniques as much as possible. Focus on arousing the other sexually. Do not worry if making love will result in no orgasm tonight or not. Your goals are: Learn your breathing skills and get excited.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #2 – Learn basic things
Learn the new and basic positions of sexual intercourse. Your basics are now the equivalent of a wardrobe that would fit into a bag. You need to expand this selection to the point where you would need at least one roll of bags to accommodate the various pieces. For starters, take a night out to see how their bodies fit into each of the basic positions of sexual intercourse. No pressure up here.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #3 – First basic position
The woman on top. This is generally considered the most favorable position for the female orgasm because it has the freedom to caress her clitoris during intercourse and control the depth and angle of penetration and the speed of pushing as well.
The man can also caress his genitals or breasts. And this position provides visual stimulation. In the basic version of the position, she crouches or sits on the man, who is lying on his back. His legs are bent to his knees, one on either side of his body. She can lean forward or back, using her hands for support, or sit upright, keeping both hands free.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #4 – First basic position
Missionary position with the man on top. This is a great position to push the penis and has emotional contact. In the basic version of the position, she lies on her back with her legs slightly ajar. He lies on it, supporting his weight, at least partially, with his hands or elbows. They can decrease or increase the depth of penetration by placing pillows under the back or wrapping the legs around your waist or placing your feet on your shoulders.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #5 – Third basic position
Rear position. Some women love this, some do not. Men usually like it. This position facilitates penetration deeper than the other basic positions. In the basic version of the position, she is four with him kneeling behind her. She can change the angle of penetration by lowering her chest to the bed. This also leaves a free hand to stimulate her own clitoris.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #6 – Fourth basic position
Lateral position. In the basic version of this position, he stands to face the woman’s back. His buttocks are bent against him as he puts one leg between hers. Or she can lie on her back, half on her side, lifting the leg she is lying on. He looks at her. Penetration is limited in this position.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #7 – Fifth basic position
Seated position. He sits on a chair or in bed with her on horseback. Again, the penetration is superficial. But they can make her a more vigorous position if he grabs her buttocks and she leans back as she pushes.
Marital problems – When he/she does not want new things in bed #8 – Sixth basic position
Standing position. Having sex while standing satisfies a need that some people have to make dramatic and urgent love. It’s a great way to start making love. You can always slide to the ground and end up in another position. In the basic version of this position, he crouches slightly as she bends over him. She wraps one leg around his waist and he holds her buttocks.